Write a list of your top seven qualities. These are what make you unique. Carry these around with you every day and read them to remind yourself who you are and what makes you special.
2. WRITE A LIST OF PAST SUCCESSES
Think about the times in your life when you’ve been successful at something. Write a list of all of these and remind yourself how you did this and how great it felt when you’d achieved your goals. Use this past experience to fuel your self-belief and confidence for achieving your goals in the future.
3. DON’T PUT YOURSELF DOWN
Keep a tally of how many times you speak negatively about yourself. This will ensure that you become acutely aware of how many times a day you tell people or yourself that you aren't any good. This will be a real eye-opener for you, which will lead you to decrease the frequency of this external negative dialogue.
4. CHOOSE POSITIVE ROLE MODELS
We can help ourselves by looking at others in a constructive and positive way rather than negatively comparing ourselves with them. Look at others with a glowing self-confidence and notice their characteristics. Pick up words and body language that they use and add them to your own repertoire.
5. ACCEPT COMPLIMENTS
Being able to accept, believe and feel good about compliments is crucial to cultivating a high level of self-confidence. The best way to accept compliments is to look the person in the face, smile and say ‘thank-you’. This will in turn also make them feel good. Looking embarrassed or looking down at your feet and feeling uncomfortable will also make the person giving the compliment uncomfortable – no-one wins in that situation!
6. POSITIVE AFFIRMATIONS
Using positive affirmations every day is really effective as you’re talking to your subconscious where all your negative thoughts are stored. Pick three strong statements, which literally make a negative self-belief into a positive one. Say your positive affirmations out loud while looking in the mirror as this makes them stronger because you’re connecting with yourself.
7. CONSTRUCTIVE SELF-TALK
We all have an irrational and rational voice. Use constructive questioning on yourself to ensure the irrational voice gets less airtime than the rational voice. Keep practicing this, as it will give you an overwhelming sense of control over your negative inner voice, which is invaluable in many situations in life.
8. TAKE CARE OF YOURSELF
Take time out to nurture yourself. Eat well and drink less alcohol. Go to sleep early and exercise. This indicates to yourself that you’re worthy of being cared for. Remember you deserve to take care of yourself and be taken care of!
Use the eight tips and your self-esteem will skyrocket too!
Rebekah Fensome is an accredited Life Coach and writer. She has run a private coaching practice in London for the past four years. You can visit her website at www.rebekahfensomelifecoach.com
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